I have on occasion, been called upon to play an intermediary role in a couple's relationship. A role I often feel ill equipped to perform.
One of such roles is convincing a husband to have a fertility test.
In our society, infertility is usually believed to be a problem of the wife and not the husband.
Nurse J was having difficulty becoming pregnant again after her first child who was almost twenty.
Nurse J had tried everything, she had done all the required tests, taken all of the medications but her husband of almost two decades refused any medical intervention - afterall there was nothing wrong with him.
She tried all the tricks in the book to get her husband checked medically, but he had refused. So she came to me.
Obviously something had happened in all those years to reduce his fertility (If he was indeed the Father). Nurse J suspected he'd gotten an infection, probably from his many acts of infidelity.
I adviced a letter be written to her husband to come for a general check in the hospital, there was no response.
WHY MEN FEEL INFERTILITY IS A WOMAN'S PROBLEM
1. They are men duh!
2. They are physically normal.
4. Past/ Present Illicit affairs.
5. Advice from other men.
6. Societal beliefs.
7. Parents didn't have such problems.
HOW TO HANDLE INFERTILITY.
1. Simple, both partners should see the doctor together.
2. They should go with an open mind devoid of blames and name calling.
3. They should trust the doctor.
4. They should be patient.
What are your views on this?